Many people go through life, saying, “If only…” as if whatever has been done, or not done, is the be-all-end-all for your life.” “If only I wasn’t so shy…” “If only I weren’t so clumsy…” “If only I lived somewhere else…” “If only I didn’t have this disease…”
It’s easy to feel like a victim of your circumstances. Society promotes this, too, with messages such as, “you have one chance to make a first impression.” Advertisements abound that make you feel inadequate. if you’re not beautiful, rich, talented, etc. Kids grow up feeling like losers if they’re not popular enough, smart enough, athletic or confident. These early messages can sink deep and continue into adulthood with so much so that adults believe, when they have a label it’s for life. They don’t question that chronic disease is inevitable
This fatalistic outlook on life is great for pharmaceutical companies. Medications can range from $10 to over $1000 per month. Over time, people generally need more and more prescriptions, either because the medication becomes less effective or to counteract side effects of a previous medication. People who believe that illness is a one-way street make for happy investors in pharmaceutical-related companies.
What if you believed in second chances? As in, your current situation is uncomfortable or undesirable because of your actions or in actions. Maybe you know exactly what you should have done instead but ignored that thought because it didn’t seem worth the effort or expense. Perhaps you didn’t really know what you were doing or were supposed to do at the time. Perhaps your expectations were unrealistic… that you were doing the right thing but didn’t stick with it long enough or try hard enough to get the desired result. The hardest situation is when you knew the best course of action, but weren’t in a position to take advantage of the opportunity.
Life gives us many second changes. People with a negative, count the number of failed attempts, like broken New Year’s Resolutions. If you want off the treadmill of victimhood, let’s look at each failed attempt as an opportunity to find out our weaknesses or failings and to improve our tactics, so the next attempt is more successful than the previous one.
Here are some strategies to consider, to make the most of your second chances:
- Start with what makes the most sense and can possibly get you to the most desirable result. Pie-in-the-sky, expensive, one -shot miracles rarely deliver on their promises. Most good things come with effort, over time. Strategies that work should be explainable to an 8-year-old
- Be prepared to give your all to make it work. Even a 15-minute daily ab workout can have an effect if you actually devote 15 minutes daily to the concentrated work out. The catch? You need to sustain this for at least a month. Every single day. If you want to keep the results, you’ll need to continue working out your ab muscles. Maintaining a healthy, respectful & loving relationship with a spouse means being faithful, always.
- Simplify your routine. While some activities have a synergistic positive effect when done simultaneously, others are a distraction or drain your energy and make it harder to make progress. Choose your priorities: What are your necessities and what is working for you? Doing something “just because everyone else does it” is a poor reason to continue if it doesn’t serve your goal. You may have several important goals, which means it’ll matter even more than you not waste time and energy on mindless or counter-productive activities. If you’ve given your all, over a reasonable amount of time, and the activity is not having a beneficial effect on your goal or quality of life, then put it on hold, as you explore other options. Too often, people continue ineffective activities because they are “free” (paid by a third party), or easy or they busy themselves with these distractions easy even if it’s not helping rather than expend afford the time, money or energy on for something that could make a real difference.
- Ignore people who may lead you astray from your goal. These people might be well-meaning, but ignorant when it comes to your current state, your goals or the methods you’re employing to get there. Someone else’s experiences or opinion is just that. It can have little to no bearing on what is the best way for you to achieve your own goals. These detractors’ ego issues might affect you too. If they feel like failures, they may secretly want you to fail, too. It could also be that their own goals are very different from yours and they want you to think the same way that they do. You don’t have to be rude to these people. After all, they are often loved ones or acquaintances you’ll see again and again. Keep your thoughts to yourself, respectfully allowing them to have their own opinions and live their own lives as you live yours… your way.
- Build a village of support if you can. If you’re lucky, you’ll come across others on a similar journey, and may be further along than you. It’s easier when you don’t feel all alone, especially if you’re facing temptation or frustration. The journey to something fabulous is never without effort, tests or doubts.
There’s a reason we may face the same problems multiple times. It’s because we haven’t yet unlocked the solution. Once we’ve unlocked it, then if it re-appears, it’s not really a problem, just a task to be undertaken.
Chiropractic is all about second chances for health and a better quality of life. Our bodies have an inborn intelligence for growth, development, healing and regeneration. Chiropractic care is about facilitating the body’s nerve communication and structural biomechanics, plus teaching lifestyle choices so you can grow, develop, heal and regenerate the way you should. If you have a genetic predisposition to a health weakness, then you’ll need to give more attention to your health than those born with a stronger constitution. It’s all about believing that your health and well-being is worth the attention it needs and following through with it.
Do you want a second chance at a better quality of life? Please fill out a Baseline Health Questionnaire, then request a free consultation with Dr. Sabrina Chen-See. Let’s start a conversation!