Everyone wants to feel that they’re exceptionally good at something or recognized and validated as being someone special… in a good way. Parents aren’t immune to this. Whether they’ve achieved satisfaction in their life, or not, they often have big hopes and dreams for their own children. Some people think you’re either born with it (brains, beauty, brawn, big bank account) or not. The truth is, regardless of how you begin, steps can be taken to increase the likelihood of success in life.
- Talents and Gifts
Believe it or not, we’re all born with many talents and gifts. Some are noticed early on and celebrated, while others may seem like a curse, depending on the culture and time period you’re born into. Rebels get in trouble in school but their outside-of-the-box thinking can help them stand out (in a good way) in real life. Being pale, blond and thin is celebrated in some cultures while other cultures prefer dark and curvy physiques. Because talents and gifts are context-dependent, it takes time and life experiences to call on or appreciate them. With those talents that are extremely useful in a crisis, you won’t realize you possess them unless you’re in such a situation. As a parent, try to expose your child to different situations, cultures, and people. This will give your child more opportunities to discover their talents and gifts. Another thing you can do is teach your children that gifts and talents come in many different forms.
- Hard Work and Persistence
Natural gifts and talents may open doors for you, but it takes ongoing effort and repetition to achieve mastery. Many gifts and talents, like diamonds-in-the-rough, aren’t readily apparent. In this case, it will take even more guidance, effort and persistence to reveal your inner greatness. This is especially so when your talent isn’t readily apparent. The most talented athletes in history, like Wayne Gretzky, were also known to be the hardest working from a very young age. It’s important to focus more on the efforts to grow and develop the skills or talents, rather than the results. Why? A gifted 4-year old who rests on his laurels can turn into a below-average 8-year-old in the same area. The problem with solely results-based adulation is that when a kid is used to using talents alone to get praise, they may give up whenever the task gets more difficult. Many kids do this in our technical age… give up on sports and real-life challenges. Instead, they retreat to the virtual world of video games, where they can always press re-start when they’re not doing well. There is something to be said for taking a longer time and putting more effort into developing a skill or talent: When you do, there is more appreciation for the effort that went into the mastery, a better understanding of the process and more resilience to handle the unexpected or difficulties.
- Supportive Environment
Hope and encouragement go a long way to helping people stay on track when the going gets rough. In a supportive environment, parents can be (or find) good role models, provide opportunities for their kids to develop talents and give guidance and encouragement on what it takes to succeed in a particular endeavour. Unlike coaches, teachers or talent scouts, parents have the unique responsibility of looking out for the whole child, not just the particular skills being developed. Let it be okay for your child to make mistakes, fail or change their mind. A star figure skater is also a daughter, a sister, a kid navigating the social intricacies of middle school and puberty. She will need someone who is looking out for her long term, and not just caring about what it takes to get on the Olympic team. Parents need to remind their kids that there’s more to life than their talent, and that the world doesn’t revolve around them. We are all connected by community, and this connection is good for our souls. Kids also need to be reminded that they are loved, regardless of their talent level or gifts.
- The Secret Ingredient is Chiropractic
Few people know that chiropractic care, especially ongoing wellness care (as opposed to short-term acute care) can help you uncover hidden talents. Furthermore, it can help your body and brain better integrate training to achieve mastery with less effort and time. Chiropractic care is about helping your body and brain function better, and function better together because of better nervous system communication. What does this look like? Better coordination and balance. More fluid motions, including fine motor control. Quicker, more accurate thought process. Better memory. More energy, even a “spring in your step.” Easier digestion of foods. More resilient immune system. Quicker understanding of concepts and learning of skills. More adaptability to new situations. Better sleep. Less feelings of overwhelm or hopelessness. More creativity and better problem-solving creativity. Better strength and agility. Better control over thoughts and feelings. More comfortable in their own skin. Less bothered by minor stimuli. More joyful and optimistic. More compassionate and cooperative. Fewer illnesses or diseases. Less need for interventions such as medications, surgery or extremely restrictive lifestyle practices. As you can see, wellness chiropractic is about caring for the whole person, not only addressing one discrete symptom at a time.
Early life success is not necessarily an indicator of greatness later on in life. However, a child who thinks they’ll never amount to anything has an extremely difficult mindset to change. It is Important to develop skills to learn, cope with adversity, find purpose, believe one is capable of doing something worthy and feel joy. Many great people didn’t purposefully seek fame, recognition or wealth. They found a greater purpose and rose to the occasion, like Mother Teresa, Greta Thunberg, and Martin Luther King Jr. One such purpose is to help others get out of despair. Love Has No Colour does this. Our mission is to give hope to First Nations kids on the Fort Peck Indian Reservation. Christmas presents, brand new jackets, backpacks, non-perishable foods, and summer carnival… these are our way of saying, “You are someone who matters. We believe in you. As a kid, you deserve to have joy and be treated as someone special.” Fifteen years of repeating this message through our actions, and we have measurable results – less crime, fewer school dropouts, fewer child and teen suicides. We also see more smiles, more dreamers for a better future, more believers in themselves. Please help in our campaign. Until Nov. 30th, we are accepting monetary donations to purchase brand new winter jackets and toys to hand out just before Christmas. You can also help by referring someone to our office as a new patient. At this time, we will waive our $325 new patient examination, x-rays and report if you donate $100 to our fundraiser ($25 for kids). Please visit us at www.FamilyWellnessChiro.ca or call us at (604) 566-9088 to get involved!